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ArtDeco's avatar

That's very relevant for me. It’s common for me to like one half of a couple and dislike the other. The people a meet are older with long term relationships, and I often wonder just what the attraction is (or was) between the couples I meet, so using the partner's personality to try to judge character of either one wouldn't work well for me.

Probably just my perspective, but it seems like such a common experience that I don't trust that bit of character reading advice. Perhaps just putting up with an obnoxious personality for years shows character...

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Tom Besson's avatar

Your final sentence could do without 'perhaps'. In a doco about the Beatle George Harrison, his lovely widow Olivia recounts a story where she and George are at a dinner party, and an older, wiser woman at the table is asked, "What's the secret of a long marriage?" Her answer is, "Don't get divorced." Putting up with stuff gets you further down the road than being a jerk.

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