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Tom Ellis's avatar

The death of slow dancing: I was reminded of my high school slow dancing experiences when I read that Paul, of Paul and Paula, had passed away last week. I don't ever recall feeling that dancing then, in the early-mid '60s, was intimate, but was more about trust, and closeness. As I got older it became more about intimacy to the point that slow dancing in social circles could be uncomfortable with that level of intimacy on display. Maybe that's the real issue behind it disappearing--hook up culture has little to do with intimacy and displays of any kind of intimacy have come to make people very uncomfortable. That could be why the most intimate dance scenes as portrayed in the media are typically shown with the couple in solitude, with no one else around.

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Kat's avatar

I doubt I had any physical contact with a boy until my middle school dance. I was largely ignored unless they wanted to pound a dodgeball straight into my face.

So imagine my surprise when I was asked to dance.

“Stairway to Heaven” to be exact.

The longest 8 minutes of my life. Avoiding eye contact, rocking back and forth, shuffling around awkwardly through increasing tempo changes. “Do I stop touching him now? Can I pull the fire alarm and run?”

Twerking is appalling but had it been around in 1983…

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