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Max Livada's avatar

Masculinity problem is reaching critical mass. I specialize partially in seeing teenage male clients, and right now they're some of the most lost (and forgotten) cohort of humans here in America. Over the decades, we've rightfully shifted attention towards minority, under-served, and diverse demographics to bring equity to society. One of the unintended consequences, however, is men have been left by the wayside. Women have evolved, but society isn't teaching men how to catch up. Undergraduate enrollment here in the states is now 60/40 women to men, with young men being much more likely to attempt suicide than young women as well (and a whole host of other problems).

This doesn't have to be a zero-sum game; when I talk to my fellow therapists about raising up men, it's assumed (and loudly vocalized) it must come at the cost of women's rights. No! We can raise everyone up. We can invigorate and support minority groups in their fight for equality without having to also put some other group down! There isn't a ceiling on the resource that is joy.

P.S. The most chilling part of the infographic you provided about entertainment is the spot where the source says "Did you know half of all waking hours are now spent engaged in entertainment? Learn more about how this might impact your brand." It would be like saying "half of all waking hours are now spent laying on the couch, learn more about how this affects your store's furniture sales."

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David Palmer's avatar

A very good article, I mean really, but . . . (well, there had to be a 'but'!) . . .

What does an ordinary man, like your humble reviewer here, do with all this? I mean, I'm not bound for glory in politics or on a corporate board, I'm just a reasonably intelligent man who eschews wealth and profile for reasons of principle and taste (not to mention laziness) and who is doing his best to give his teenage son a decent baseplate in life.

But how do I respond to the world as it is presented in so many publications and YouTube videos, and with particular poignancy in this piece of yours? I can continue buying books, CDs, vinyl, and the odd DVD of an cinema classic so my home stays a bastion of a departing 'culture'. Maybe buy a new home further out of town in someplace inconspicuous. However retreating or circling the wagons rarely wins the day unless the cavalry shows up. But do we have any cavalry left? Or even one guy riding a white horse? Hell, even Sancho Panza on a donkey is starting to seem too much to ask for.

My point is, I find myself going ever inward, focused on old ways and things, essentially turning my back on the future. This may be healthy for individuals, at least in the short term, but it's no way to run a society. You feel like you're hiding with a candle under a blanket inside a madhouse. You spend your time muttering and snorting into your walrus moustache over things that you read online. I've led my life according to the dictum 'never a leader nor a follower be' (actually I think it's 'never a lender nor a borrower be' but they mean something similar), but instead of exploring strange new worlds and boldly going where no self-effacing 'person' has gone before, I'm finding myself holed up somewhere waiting for the zombies.

So what are we to do, mate?

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